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I AM A WOMAN WHO I am a woman who gave my daughter up for adoption. It was 10 December 1974 and I was married but it wasn't my husband's baby. He gave me the choice of keeping my baby or giving her up for adoption. I chose adoption because I wanted to give her a better chance to have a better life than what I could give her. It was a grey adoption in the state of Virginia. The doctor was the go-between. I was given only a little bit about the couple who were adopting my daughter and they were told only a little about me. I gave birth nearly 6 weeks early and I had problems as did the baby. The next morning the cleaning woman came in and asked if I was about to go home. I said No, I just had a baby. She wanted to know what I was doing in that room… that was the room the doctors put the women in who were having abortions. Ten minutes later the pediatrition came in and asked if I was the woman giving the baby up for adoption. I said yes, he turned around and walked out the door …! and as he went out I asked if my baby was ok… the door shut and I thought, RATS!!! He didn't hear me… the door reopened and he came back in and said, I make it a point NEVER to talk to women who give their babies up for adoption. Then less than 1/2 hour later my doctor came in… not the one I'd been working with but his partner. This doctor said he'd made a decision and he decided not to let me see my daughter or hold her… and he didn't care what my doctor had said. I never saw my baby again. It took me years to get over it… if I ever really did. Last year my daughter who is 1 year, 2 days and 1 minute younger than her sister got a computer and went searching. She went to the website for the state of Virginia and put her request in. Within less than 10 minutes she got a call on the phone telling her she had a solid hit and that evening the two sisters were talking to each other for the first time. We have gotten together and it has been so amazing. We are so much alike… down to what we read, how we read, what we like for music and so much more. It was 27 years to finally hold her in my arms for the first time but it was great. I know not everyone gets the answers but for all of you who are searching… I wish you luck and best wishes. I hope everyone's search can end like ours. [TALES]
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